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Sunday, September 23, 2007

Staying in love

Love Ethics

The fact of the matter is that if you would not like it if it was done to you, or if it would have a detrimental effect on your relationship if your partner found out about it, then it is wrong!
Basically, when you do something wrong, it is human nature to justify what you did.
The fact is that you can make excuses for something to the point that you actually believe them. It is these justifications that will end up destroying your relationship.

Whenever you make a decision that will affect your relationship, ask yourself these two questions:
Do you have to convince yourself it is right?
Would your partner be upset if they found about it?
If it fails that test, don't do it. You will be a lot happier in the long run.

Communication - Art of Listening

Listen To What Is Actually Being Said
This is especially true if you are in a disagreement. It is very easy to pick out the things in what your partner is saying that you want to hear and can throw back at them. This is not some high school debate class where you score points for winning an argument, this is your sweetheart and your actions here and now will dictate the course of the rest of your life together!

Remain Calm
If your sweetheart is angry, very often they will lash out at you because you are there and are someone they can take their frustration out on. While this may not be pleasant and the most ideal way to handle a situation, I'm afraid it is part of the job description of being a sweetheart. Realize that it is just a way for your sweetie to vent and resist the urge to get angry back, it will only make things worse.

If something is your fault, say you're sorry!
Don't hold out and try to redirect the blame to something or someone else. If you broke a promise, said something you wished you didn't or did something you'd rather not confess to, it's up to you to make amends. Not only will YOU feel better about your ability to come clean, but your partner will learn to trust you more knowing you're willing to accept responsibility.

Your Heart

Romantic Settings
Ocean/Beach
Rainy Day
Beach At Night
Romantic Bubble Bath
Dancing by Candlelight
Candlelit Dinner
Moonlit walks on the beach.
Picnic Dinner.
Express your love without holding back!

Romantic Acts
Give your love a surprise.
Do something to make your partner feel special.
Walking in the mountains at sunset.
Say I love you.
Kiss your love.
Give your love a backrub.
Just being with your love.
Take a bath together.
Go stargazing.
Call just to say I love you.
Pamper your love.
Hold hands.
Do something romantic for your love.

A Romantic State of Mind
Romance is not just a one time thing you do every couple of weeks to show someone that you love them. It is a state of mind. In everything that you do and say you are showing how you feel about your partner and life. Sometimes being romantic and loving just takes giving a little token of acknowledgement to your partner. Sometimes it's a little bit more. But there is one thing that will always hold true, if you take the time to notice and show your partner that you do, you will reap the benefits with a more loving and communicative relationship.

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